Friday, February 28th, 2014 in Blog Posts, Podcast Episodes with 0 Comments
Ten Tough Questions Leaders and Followers Ask
Thanks to all of you who wrote me tough leadership questions. I am going to tackle them today on my podcast. I am not going to mention the names of who wrote these questions because it could get you in to trouble with your supervisor or your direct reports! But thank you for sending them to me!
- From a VP: I have a good “tough leadership question” for you to discuss on your podcast. How do you teach your staff personal responsibility? How do you get them to really own their positions and be proactive?
Answer: This is a very tough one. In many ways, this is about genes and family of origin issues. Illustrate with our own kids. You have to coach them. You have to be honest with them about their failures in this area. For many of the current generation that come from broken homes where they raised themselves, we have to coach them and teach them carefully. But you cannot make lazy people un-lazy.
- From the same VP: I have good ideas but when I tell the staff what they are going to do…I don’t get the results I thought I’d get…what am I doing wrong.
Answer: So I am wondering about your word “telling them.” perhaps they are not owning it because they are not part of the process of coming to decisions about the course of action? It also reminds me of situational leadership. Ken Blanchard and company. See the chart to the right.
Answer: I would always lean in toward the spouse.
Answer: Listen to our Valentine Special Episode #27. For me it is a negotiation. You cannot say that your job is more important than she is. If you do, your marriage will not survive. You need to bring her in as a partner. Show her what she will get out of this and work on ways to make it work. You have to give her some concessions.
- My tough leadership question is how do I tell them that they need to fix their attitude because no one wants to work with them and that they are not making sound judgement calls (when it comes to surgery)?
Answer: The military is a tough place, because you probably can’t hold over people the possibility of firing them. Probably like education world. First of all, I would tell them the truth and ask them if they even care. Attitude is everything in my opinion. You should recruit for attitude and train for skill. It does not work the other way around. Get them off the bus if they are not willing to change.
- What’s the best way to get a fresh start when you plateau and don’t see your future path of progress?
Answer: I recommend you listen to Podcast #15 and #19. Peter Pendell and David Beavers, two great leaders that have amazing stories to tell of bouncing back and reviving a dead heart. 1) Sabbatical 2) New position 3) Get around people that can help you 4) counseling 5) conferences 6) Ask God to stir your heart with freshness.
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Episode #27: Valentine Day Special – An Interview with Donna Finzel – Top Ten Ways to Love Your Wife
Thursday, February 13th, 2014 in Blog Posts, Podcast Episodes with 2 Comments
Top Ten Ways to Love Your Wife
with Hans and Donna Finzel
Listen, guys . . . you’ll never get to the bottom of the complex nature of the female heart. But try as best you can to learn all you can. It’s worth it.
This is the challenge put to husbands as Hans and Donna Finzel humorously and poignantly engage a hard but true principle: If you don’t understand how you do it wrong, you’ll never know how to do it right.
But the Finzels are quick to add, this book is not a put-down on men. It is a fresh glimpse into how most women are wired and how their men can run with, not against those currents. Drawing from their surveys of dozens of married couples all over the world, as well as from their own 25 years of marriage, Hans and Donna explore how to turn the top ten notorious marital faux pas into doable acts that say louder than words, “I do love you.”
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Friday, January 31st, 2014 in Blog Posts, Podcast Episodes with 2 Comments
Mentors – What is this all about and why would this matter to you?
I want to model something I would challenge you to do:
- Make the list of the people who have made you who you are in a positive way (We can all make the other list!)
- List their single greatest contribution to you.
- Have you ever told them thank you? For some it is not too late.
- It helps you think about your impact on others.
Mentor is “an experienced and trusted adviser.”
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Friday, January 17th, 2014 in Blog Posts, Podcast Episodes with 8 Comments
Launch Your Encore – Finding Adventure and Purpose Later in Life – a new book by Hans Finzel and Rick Hicks. Coming later in 2014.
Listen to this interview with Rick as we discuss our new book, and why Boomers will reinvent retirement in the coming years.
A lot of boomers we are asking the post career question, What’s next?” Our book is the answer to their question. Boomers must learn
to be intentional about finding meaning and purpose in their sixties, seventies, and eighties (the 60-80 window). With the average U.S. life expectancy reaching eighty, the authors’ purpose is to help readers recognize that they are entering a new life stage, identify the positive changing landscape of late life development, and discover how they have the potential to maximize their new role as elders in this culture. No longer retiring at 65 and dying soon there after, people are ending up with a whole lot of life left after their main careers.
Readers of Launch Your Encore will:
- Know that they are not alone in the journey into late life development. This is the new normal for boomers.
- Learn the building blocks of a fulfilling life after retirement for the “new old.”
- See the choices that must be made to have a successful elder life beyond the old “retire and die” paradigm of their parents and grandparents.
- Learn how to establish meaning and purpose in the “60–80 window.”
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Friday, January 3rd, 2014 in Blog Posts, Podcast Episodes with 0 Comments
Setting great goals for 2014.
Have you already forgot about your new years resolutions? That’s normal.
I don’t believe in New Year’s resolutions but I do believe in goals.
Here’s what’s wrong with New Years resolutions:
- They tend to be spur of the moment
- We don’t take them seriously
- They tend to be unrealistic – lose 40 pounds by swimsuit season
- Why new years? It tends to be a fad
- Once a year and soon they fizzle and fade
Here’s was right about goals:
- They are well thought out
- They help is actually achieve new dreams
- They are realistic
- Beginning of every 6 month period
- Ongoing process
Six things I cover in this podcast:
1.Why bother with goals?
2.What if I have failed so many times I don’t want to try again?
3.What are the important areas of your life that need goals?
4.What makes good goals?
5.The importance of scheduling your goals:
6.Make an action plan and stick with it.